God never intended for us to live alone and unattached to other people. He created relationships, specifically the marriage relationship, to challenge us and help us grow in love. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life”(John 3:16). God’s unconditional love is an action word, not a feeling. Many people want something of value without putting in time and effort. When building a successful marriage, the willingness to work at it will create a beautiful masterpiece of two lives joined together as one. You both win when you understand that the goal is oneness, being on the same page, and feeling safe with each other.
*Revised and updated from the 2010 mini-book, Fight for Your Marriage .